Posted by on Aug 11, 2015 in The Yoga of relationship | 0 comments

Of course as we know in our human lives we have very complex relationships. It’s not just about Mr. Bee coming and pollinating some flowers. It is very, very complex.

We have our relationships with parental affection, friendship, husbands and wives (marital relationships), working relationships (the bosses, the co-workers), relationships with our dogs, our cats – our loved ones, we love them more than the other guys.

Why do we love our animals oftentimes more? Because the relationships are simpler. It’s not so complex, “Hey, this is my dog. I love him, he loves me.” Easy stuff. But the wife? “Man!” And oftentimes, you know, it appears that “the dog loves me more than my wife!”

There is a little test you can do to see. Take your dog, take your wife, put them into the trunk of your car, close the trunk and go away for six hours. Come back in six hours, open the trunk and see which one is the most happy to see you. (Laugher)

No, don’t do that test. (Laughs) You might get in trouble.

“What if I put my husband…?” (Asked a person from the audience)

You can go both ways, of course you can go both ways. Make sure your husband does not have a gun in the trunk. (Laughter)

But anyway the point is this. With humans the relationships are very complex. And we expect more from the relationships. See, the dog does not expect much, we expect a lot.

And of course as we all will have to agree relationships are the source of our biggest problems, the biggest struggles, the biggest disappointments, the biggest headaches, heartaches, all are from our relationships. The rest of the stuff is quite easy in comparison to that.

But we continue to try to find that perfect relationship. That is what everybody is thinking they will find: the perfect person that I can know, I can love, who will love me, who will make me happy.

And usually when people get married this is ‘the stars in the eyes’:
”I love you and you will make me happy. And I will make you happy”.
“Yes, yes, I agree!”

But we find out, sooner or later, it didn’t quite happen like that. And even if somehow or other it appears like that throughout my entire life, it’s temporary. I have to leave that relationship. That’s built-in from the very beginning. In fact, in wedding wows there is the statement ‘I will love you until death do us part’. So it is understood from the beginning we will have to split, death will take us apart.

See, that is guaranteed. That’s not like maybe. It’s like guaranteed. Why? Because this is the temporary world. Our bodies are temporary, they only last a short time and then they are gone.

So the death of the loved one is the most painful because, number one, the one I love is leaving me or has left me. And I can’t prevent that, they can’t prevent that. I don’t want them to go, they don’t want to go, but it happens anyway. That’s the design, that’s the design of these material relationships.

In our material consciousness, our material mistaken understanding, we think we are the body, we base our relationships on the body. Number one, it doesn’t bring me happiness and, number two, it’s temporary. So that’s not what I, spirit soul, need. It’s a substitute. It’s a bad substitute.

But unless we know the truth, there is no other alternative. I have to have a relationship.